Spring Clean your Life: How to say “No”

It seems like in order to succeed in life, we have to pile stuff upon stuff on ourselves. This stuff includes:

  • Being part of organizations
  • Work goals
  • Extracurricular activities
  • Volunteer work
  • Furthering your education

But when is it enough?

With websites like LinkedIn where potential employers could be searching for someone exactly like you, how do you compare to other people? Those other people may be doing more than you and rocking it like you never will.

First of all:

That’s not true. You rock too.

However,

It may be time to assess your life balance and do some spring cleaning on your life.

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Kane

Step 1: Always weight your options

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Indi Samarajiva

Just because adding one more line to your resume looks good, doesn’t mean do it. Ask yourself these questions first:

  • Does this thing benefit my professional goals?
  • Does this thing sound like me? Is it a good match?
  • Is the time and work involved worth what I am benefiting?

It is very possible that you will answer “No” to all these questions.

 

Step 2: Give yourself some time

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pallina60 Loon

Don’t rush into anything too fast or rush into saying “No” too fast either. Want to know why?

Because there can be room for negotiation.

Step 3: Negotiation

So now you are teeter-toddering on the “no” side of the spectrum. In this case:

  • Is there a way to make this opportunity beneficial in your favor?
  • Is there free food and coffee involved? (This is a partial joke)

Give the opportunity a couple days to sit and absorb into our mind. When you are ready, negotiate.

 

Step 4: Keep the door open

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Patrik Theander

No matter what your decision is, keep everything friendly and mutual. Sometimes, if you politely decline an opportunity, they will reply with much better terms. These terms can be less hours, less involvement, less money, etc.

If it’s a for sure “No”, still leave the door open for when you may need to stop by when another similar opportunity comes your way. Maybe partially accept the opportunity in order to still be a passive part.


 

The reason why we wanted to bring this up is because we know college students may be stretching themselves too far. According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, 34% have felt depressed. Out of those who suffer anxiety, 70% hit their first episode at age 22.

It is time to take a step back and balance your life again.

After taking out some unneeded stress in your life through not taking on too much at one time, wind down by:

  • Hanging out with your friends
  • Go to events that you are interested in (This is a great study break)
  • Watch TV or read a book
  • Take a bath
  • Try out a new exercise

Let’s make life about you again. Why not? Life is too short to experience anxiety all the time.

 

 

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